Married Family, Georgia’s Journey to Children
Hospital in Georgia: Women’s Clinic Fertility Centre
This medical programme: Donor Egg + Third Party Assisted Reproduction
Health Consultant: Xiaoyu
Service Advantage: Assisted Reproduction / Sperm and Egg Donation
Medical Interpreter: LUCY
Service Advantage: Senior interpreter, fluent in Chinese, Russian and Georgian.
Receptionist: Xiaonian
Advantage: life service, medical accompaniment, maternity tracking feedback
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Conflicts of Formal Marriage Children become a bargaining chip
Mr Y is 34 years old from Chaoshan, China, and works in the healthcare industry. In the eyes of many people, Mr Y is like most Dink families, who are married but don’t want to have children for the time being because of their work. In fact, this is not true. Mr Y and his ‘wife’ are in a formal marriage, and the reason they don’t want to have children is not because they are busy with work, but because they have not been able to agree on how to have a child, and the ‘wife’ has her own girlfriend who doesn’t live at home for a long period of time. The ‘wife’ has her own girlfriend and doesn’t live at home for long periods of time. How to explain to the youngster if they have a child is a problem for Mr Y. His parents are very much against the idea of Dinks. His parents are very much against the behaviour of Dink, every now and then they have to urge Mr. Y to put the matter of having children on the agenda, this matter has been like a big mountain on his shoulders, at first it was urged to get married, it is hard to solve this matter of marriage, and then the matter of children followed in step, Mr. Y has not been able to have peace of mind in his heart in the past 2 years since he got married, and sometimes it even affects the state of mind when he is at work.
Mr Y and his wife also had discussions about children before they got married, because both parties were ready to get a licence to get married, so they decided to use IVF to have children in China, but Mr Y found that his wife had no intention at all of having children after they got married, and she had no intention at all of having children. However, after marriage, Mr Y found that his wife had no intention at all of having children, and his girlfriend did not agree with the idea of having children, and he had many arguments with Mr Y over the matter. With the increase of age, the ‘wife’ thinks that it is not a good thing to go on like this, after all, her parents are also urging, so the two of them are ready to use in vitro fertilization, the ‘wife’ and Mr. Y said very clearly, she is only responsible for the birth of a child, all the costs are borne by Mr. Y, Mr. Y is also responsible for the costs, and Mr. Y has no intention of having children. The ‘wife’ made it clear to Mr Y that she would only be responsible for the birth of the child and that all expenses during the period would be borne by Mr Y. Mr Y also acceded to her request, after all, the birth of a child is a very painful thing for every woman, and it is only right that a man should pay for it monetarily.
Domestic IVF is not very smooth, the ‘wife’ because of age, only 10 eggs, transplanted three times before successful implantation, before and after about a year’s time, spent more than 100,000, basically all of Mr Y’s savings in the past few years after marriage. However, seeing his parents’ joy when they heard about his wife’s pregnancy made it worthwhile for him.
However, when his wife was two months pregnant, something very unpleasant happened. His wife’s girlfriend called him and told him that she wanted to increase her monthly living expenses by 5,000 yuan, which was the same as the monthly payment of 3,000 yuan to his wife. ‘Mr Y had already been paying 3,000 yuan per month to his ‘wife’ for her monthly nutritional expenses, and if he added another 5,000 yuan to that amount, it would be 8,000 yuan. Mr Y, whose salary was not very high, was furious when he heard her request, but the other party had its own reasoning. Mr Y gritted his teeth and thought that it was just for a few months, so he could pay, but he never thought that the child in his wife’s womb would become a bargaining chip for them. Their chips, three days to raise all sorts of requirements, and is to buy high-grade nutrition, and is to buy beauty skin care products, and even every meal to eat what is with Mr. Y counted clearly.
Finally, in the fourth month of pregnancy when the conflict again escalated, ‘wife’ because of the child in the belly of the matter with the object of the quarrel, so her object to break up, and even do not answer her phone calls and messages. ‘Wife’ because of impulsive even did not say hello to Mr Y, a person ran to the hospital to do away with the child, heard the news, Mr Y’s anger simply reached the extreme, the same day with the “wife” filed for divorce. So, three years of marriage so hastily ended, not to mention the money spent, the results are all wasted. In this kind of helpless situation, Mr Y came out to his parents, saying that he no longer wanted to get married, too tired, although not very clear indication of his gay identity, but his parents did not say anything else.
After all that happened, Mr Y wanted to have a child to keep him company, and realised how important a child was to him. Even if he told the child who he really was, as long as he was given enough love and care, I believe he would be able to understand him. By chance, Mr Y joined a Georgia IVF self-help group and saw many people in the group sharing their experiences of seeking children in a similar situation to his own, and learnt that Georgia does not require a marriage certificate for IVF, so Mr Y also had the idea of going overseas for assisted reproduction. However, he didn’t have the funds to do it himself, so he decided to turn to his parents, whose mother was a very reasonable and open-minded person, and after a period of communication, she decided to sponsor her son.
Mr Y had never been abroad before and was worried about the self-help medical services shared in the group. He felt that although self-help could save him some money, he was going to a foreign country where he was unfamiliar with the world and had to decide everything on his own, which was a big hassle, so he thought it would be better to look for a reliable service organisation to make him feel more at ease.
So Mr Y started to consult and compare several Georgia IVF medical institutions, after all, he is also engaged in the medical industry, for the unspoken rules of the industry more or less have some understanding, so extra cautious. Once we shared a customer’s success story in our group, Mr Y added our colleague’s WeChat, and he felt that the frankness of our service staff and their objective attitude in answering questions were more reliable, unlike other agencies that made wild promises. After more in-depth communication, he asked about our prices, packages, services, risks, medical partner organisations and other aspects of information, through the patience of our health consultant Xiao Shang’s answers, Mr. Y said he was very satisfied, and chose us to escort his IVF journey.
His first visit to the UK went smoothly
After more than two months of preparation, Mr Y finally started his IVF journey to Georgia, because he did not want to publicise this matter among his friends, so Mr Y asked us to introduce him to a female companion to go with him to Georgia, although the assisted reproduction programme in Georgia does not require a marriage certificate, but it is still necessary for a man and a woman to go together, in order to make it easier to return to their home country after the birth of the child, so the role of the female companion is also very important, make sure to choose a reliable partner. Therefore, the role of the female partner is also very important, and you must choose a reliable person to go, otherwise it will be very troublesome if she doesn’t go to Georgia for the second time.
Mr Y is a very warm hearted man, he even brought speciality products from his hometown to his female companion, and she even sent a friend circle to share it with us. After arriving in Tbilisi, our staff waited for Mr Y and his party at the arrival level of the airport. The pick-up went smoothly, and Mr Y saw our staff holding the logo flag and waved to us from afar.
According to the request of Mr Y and his companion, they decided to let us help them to book a bigger apartment, so that they can live together and not be bored, so we chose a two-room apartment for them, and each room has its own bathroom.Mr Y came to the flat and praised and said it was more beautiful and spacious than the photos.
The next day, our colleague led Mr Y and his girlfriend to the hospital to visit and arrange a consultation with a specialist, during which our professional interpreter accompanied them, so the communication was very smooth, and the doctor made a series of medical plans for Mr Y. We could see that Mr Y was very satisfied with the hospital we provided. He said he didn’t realise that Georgian medical institutions were so modern, and that they were much better than those in China, which is a very high praise!
After the blood collection and routine physical examination, Mr Y signed a contract with our surrogacy agency and our staff arranged a meeting with the caring mother for Mr Y. Mr Y was very satisfied with the caring mother’s simple and sincere attitude, and we had a very nice chat.
Regarding the egg donation, as Mr Y chose our Thai donor, it was not possible to arrange for them to come to Georgia to meet Mr Y in advance, so they could only communicate via video. After all the arrangements were made and Mr Y’s sperm collection was completed, the first trip to Georgia came to an end. There were too many laughs and smiles to mention, but Mr Y said he would like to give full marks to the service of our staff, and was really touched by your recognition of us.
Successful Transplantation
During ovulation, the donor from Thailand was very helpful. 19 eggs were retrieved at the end and 14 embryos reached the standard on the third day of incubation. After 5 days of 23 pairs of screening, there were 3 male and 1 female embryos, a total of 4 healthy embryos ready to be transferred, and Mr Y wanted us to transfer 1 male and 1 female embryo, and the final implantation would depend on God’s will. I didn’t expect that Mr Y would be blessed by God, the pregnancy test was successful 10 days after the transfer and the caring mum was pregnant with a pair of dragon and phoenix babies, which was fantastic! I hope it will continue to go so well and that the little prince and princess will grow up healthy!